143: Creating Security in Non-monogamous Relationships + Being Friends with Your Partner’s Lover with Irene Morning

Listen to this episode from Sex Love Psychedelics on Spotify. Whether you're in a non-monogamous relationship, or if you’re just curious, this episode is for you. Irene Morning, MS (she/her) is a somatic pleasure coach, intimacy educator, and bestselling author of The Polyamory Paradox: Finding Your Confidence in Consensual Non-Monogamy.  We get into the nuances of non-monogamous relating and how you can support yourself + your loves with compassion + care.   In this episode, you’ll hear: Creating security in non-monogamous relationships Irene’s inspiration and process for writing her book, The Polyamory Paradox Vetting non-monogamous therapists and support  Developmental trauma and non-traditional relationships Fawning; how to tell the difference between self-betrayal and leaning into an edge The Window of Tolerance, dysregulation + Examples of self resourcing Navigating New Relationship Energy - How to support the relationship at the beginning of another one Taking the right amount of responsibility - Not over and not under Regulating your nervous system to cultivate higher discernment  Leaning into vulnerability by expressing your requests + desires Relationships with your Partner’s metamour -- their partner -- kitchen table relationship Regular relationship check-ins to deepen the connection Irene even answers some questions directly from our audience: I feel pressured to be friends with my partner's partner, advice? Do “don’t ask, don’t tell” relationships work? THE SKINNY ON OUR SEXY GUESTS Irene Morning, MS (she/her) is a somatic pleasure coach, intimacy educator, and bestselling author of The Polyamory Paradox: Finding Your Confidence in Consensual Non-Monogamy. She weaves together extensive training in somatic healing and sexual health counseling with her lived experience of being queer, kinky, and polyamorous to help others create relationships that fulfill their unique desires and needs. In addition to her private coaching practice and writing, Irene is the founder and creator of Pleasure Coven (an ongoing group program for femmes reclaiming pleasure) as well as Vice President / Managing Director of Curiosity Bears (a sex-positive events community-based in Southern California). Both her work and personal life revolve around the belief that centering our own pleasure is not only healing on an individual level but also in service of interdependence and collective well-being. http://www.irenemorning.com Book (The Polyamory Paradox: Finding Your Confidence in Consensual Non-Monogamy): https://a.co/d/c3UE97J IG: https://www.instagram.com/irene_morning/ YT: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0KDzcIl2guF5m6vED8MPWg   WANT MORE? Join me for an erotic couples retreat where you and your beloved explore the sacred arts of tantra and BDSM and unlock its synergistic power in the bedroom and beyond... Love + Leather: https://learn.sexloveyoga.com/LoveAndLeather